Myth Busters: Wedding Edition Part 2!

Back by popular demand, Part 2 is now out and officially released.  Enjoy my peeps :-)

10.  All the bridesmaids have to match.  Says who?  If you choose, each bridesmaid can have their own style.  One can have a halter; one can have strapless and so forth and so on.  The curvy full figured friend may even thank you while she stands next to twiggy...just a thought. I personally would recommend the same color at least for continuity sake, but hey, this too can be different if you so wish.

9. The bride and grooms parents must sit together in the front row, even if they can't stand the sight of one another. Not all parental matrimony is perfect, why ask the mother of the bride to sit next to her ex-husband just because you think that it's appropriate for your wedding day. In an ideal world, parents could put their differences behind them for the sake of their child's wedding, however don't force them.  Wouldn’t you rather they be separated vs. world war three breaking out?

8.  You have to toss your wedding bouquet….not true…if you are older, or most of your guests are married, or you just have a really special grandma, mom, aunt, etc that you would like to give it to, there is nothing wrong with honoring them and handing it to them with a kiss rather than throwing it… it will mean the world to them.

7. You can’t incorporate other cultural traditions because you are not of that culture.  Of course you can.  For example the breaking of glass…if you are catholic, but really believe in the reason behind this symbolism, then go for it.  But word of caution, do not make fun of, belittle or demean the original intention of the tradition.  Please have respect and courtesy for whichever culture you plan on incorporating.

6. You have to invite everyone your parents want to invite.  Well, this is a touchy situation.  General rule of thumb.  If your parents are footin' the bill for it, then they do have more of a say and you should respect them.  If you are paying, then you have final say…but let me give another word of caution; be respectful.  Is it worth hurting your parents’ feelings or worse, causing tension over a few place settings?  Generally they are inviting these people because they are proud and want to show you off.  Just keep it in mind.

5. Shopping from the registry is impersonal.  Not really and this is why.  Registries were designed to allow the couple to select items they would like, rather than receiving several toasters or coffee makers that they have no use for. If there is no registry, money or other gifts are good choices. However, if there is a registry, according to The Knot wedding experts, guests should purchase from it as the couple did register for a reason. ** And we all know if The Knot says it, it MUST be true ;-) **

4. An invitation means you can bring a date. (kind of a tag along to #3 from myth busters 1). Receiving an invitation without it stating "and guest" does NOT mean you are allowed to bring a guest. Dude, are you kidding me?  Couples often make their invitation lists within a budget and many times are not able to invite all the people they would like. If they wanted you to bring a guest, they would indicate as much. Bringing a guest without receiving an invitation for one is in poor taste and is enough to send even the calmest bride into a tizzy. Honnessttllyyyyy, it's just plain rude.  Don't do it.

3. It is rude to have an adult only reception.  Ummm no.  If you would like your reception to be adult only, then so be it.  It is your reception, and there is nothing that states you have to invite everyone’s children as well.  On this note, if your invitation says “Adult only” or “No children please” do NOT bring your children.

2. Skipping the rehearsal will be ok.  No, Never, Don’t do it.  Seriously people, each church, venue, and location is different.  Each officiant is different.  DO the rehearsal; spend the extra money if there is a cost.  It is the difference between things turning into a catastrophe at your ceremony or things going smoothly.  LISTEN to the advice of your officiant.  Let me say it again, LISTEN to the officiant.

(some of you will ignore this and be sorry).

1. Your vendors are mind readers.  People, I have experienced this a thousand times over.  Unless YOU communicate exactly what you want, don’t assume they know.  As seasoned as they may be, they can only guide you.  If you don’t tell them you specifically want a picture with Uncle Frank at 6pm in front of a tree while the sun is setting, guess what? They don’t know.  If you HAVE to have a certain song, or if you hate a song and absolutely do not want to hear it, TELL the DJ!  For crying out loud, make a list for each vendor of your personal Do’s and Don’ts of the wedding.  TRUST ME, you will be happier, they will be happier, everyone will be happier in the end.  Happy Happy Joy Joy, right??  Just sayin’.

Tee hee hee.  Well peeps, I hope you got a giggle, but most importantly, if you are getting married, I hope you learned something!!

Xoxo,

Pix